As woman, we tend to take care of everyone around us - family, friends, neighbors, colleagues and even our furry companions. We’re striving to be the best partner, the best mother, the best friend and the best businesswoman and we’re going out of our way to please others.
But when do we have time to think about ourselves?
It’s so easy to get caught up in your everyday life. The daily chores and responsibilities pile up quickly and you find yourself carrying everyone else’s weight. You feel tired, overwhelmed and depleted. You’re stretching your own limits and you never seem to find time for yourself.
Here’s the thing, gorgeous. Until you don’t prioritize your own wellbeing, you’ll always feel worn out. You can’t keep filling everyone else’s cup without taking the time to fill up your own. How would it feel to stop neglecting your own needs and start putting your own fulfillment at the top of your priority list? You have the power to change your life anytime you want. Your happiness starts and ends with you.
Self-love and self-acceptance is the foundation for creating an effective self-care routine that makes you feel refreshed, recharged and fulfilled. You can never truly love others, until you mastered the relationship with yourself! Nothing is more compassionate than taking care of your own needs without expecting anything in return.
When you truly love yourself your life moves forward with ease. Your relationships evolve, your loved ones become eager to look after you, and suddenly find yourself being the one who’s taken care of. The more you focus on nurturing the relationship with yourself, the more people will want to be around you. And your vibe becomes contagious.
Reprogram your mind for self-love
Change your internal dialogue
Negative self-talk can be your biggest enemy when it comes to creating a healthy relationship with yourself. The things that you say to yourself when you’re upset or disappointed or the thoughts that you think when you’re not happy with yourself can damage your self-esteem and your self-confidence. Pay attention to how you treat yourself in your mind cause that’s what will reflect your in relationships. Talk to yourself as you would with your best friend. Choose words that are nurturing and loving. Use positive affirmations that are uplifting and inspiring.
Clear your mind
Observe your current beliefs and understand your real motivations. Why are you trying to tell yourself that you can or cannot do that thing? Is it maybe because of something that your parents or your partner think you should or shouldn't do? We often pick up beliefs that are not really aligned with our core values but we adopted them somewhere along the way to be socially accepted. These beliefs are not serving you on a soul level, instead are limiting you in becoming your true self. Declutter your mind and weed out the beliefs that are not serving your highest good.
Create a self-care routine
What is it that sets your soul on fire and makes your heart sing? It’s time to do more of that! Is it perhaps a nice bubble bath with a glass of wine and a book? Or a relaxing thai massage with essential oils? Or perhaps a quiet morning journaling alone? Whatever it is, you deserve to take time off for yourself. Block out some me-time in your calendar and dedicate at least 5-10 minutes to do something that makes you happy on a daily basis. Start small, and then increase the dose. Your loved ones will thank you when they see how fulfilled you are!
Set new boundaries
You maybe the one who’s always there for others but you don't have to sacrifice your own happiness for anyone. It is your birthright to have healthy boundaries! When you’re afraid to draw the line for yourself, people will draw it for you and it’s never going to be in your favour. It might not be easy to say NO to someone you love at first but with little practice you’ll be able to find the right balance between being nice and standing up for yourself. You cannot pour from an empty cup! So, by prioritizing yourself you will only strengthen your relationships.
Spend time with yourself
While negative self-talk is coming from your conscious mind (or ego, if you like), your true essence - the real you - is who you are on a soul level. It’s only when you to quiet the noise and allow yourself to tap into your subconscious mind, when you’ll be able to reveal who you really are. Spending time in silence is more powerful than any conversations. It’s how you connect to your inner guidance and unlock the powerful resources of your intuition. Journal, meditate, take long walks in nature. Breathe. Allow yourself to just be. Inner peace comes from living your truth and being your authentic self.
When you truly love yourself, everything else falls into place. Your career takes off, your relationships become balanced and your style and image evolves into something that actually makes you feel great. Your presence becomes magnetic and you cant’t help but feel amazing in your skin.
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Veronika Nemeth is the Founder and Creative Director of The Stylish Female Society. She is a seasoned Image Consultant, Personal Branding Expert and Transformational (Life)Style Coach helping heart-centered women to find their soul-aligned style and create a magnetic presence online & offline by uncovering their true essence and revealing their inner beauty through their style.
Her mission is to inspire women to step into their power, live their own truth and shine their authentic light through being the best version of them.